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The “Right” Resolution

Published January 1, 2015 by ABadKitten

Every New Year brings a few of the same things: mass texts at midnight from friends and family with well wishes, millions of status updates highlighting this years resolutions, and the eventual disappointment of those resolutions being broken and unfulfilled.

What are the most common resolutions? Lose weight. Stop smoking. Go to the gym more. Every single person knows a handful of people who make these same resolutions every year (with good intent, of course) and a good majority of us fall into that same category. Not to say that’s necessarily a bad thing, but it’s pretty rare that I come across a person who has been able to say to me, honestly, “I kicked my New Year Resolution’s ass!”

I read an article this morning on Quartz entitled “Why our New Year’s Resolutions are all wrong” and I couldn’t help but agree with the overall message. We make these resolutions with the hopes to better ourselves and make ourselves happier in this coming year, but we always seem to fall short of that small happiness. Why? It’s because my body weight isn’t the root of my unhappiness. Neither is the fact that I don’t go to the gym as often as I would like. Quitting smoking is not going to solve my Uncle’s issues in life, nor is the amount of fast food he eats. These behaviors are results of other issues we have, not causes.

So, with that long-winded thought process not blurted out in an unorganized fashion on a bright, white page-like screen on my computer, I can finally come to the conclusion and reason for said process in the first place. My New Year’s resolution is to find what is making me so unhappy and dissolve it from my life once and for all.Β I know exactly where I’m going to start, I just need a timeline to start it. Once I can finally look myself in the mirror and say, “I’m happy!” and not worry about when that’s going to chance, everything else will follow suite.

When I’m happy, I eat better so I lose weight.

When I’m happy, I exercise more and feel better.

When I’m happy, I’m more enjoyable as a person and people around me are happier.

When I’m happy, I’m more willing to go out with people and see my friends and family more.

Everything will follow suite, as I said. So, this year I feel like I made a resolution I can actually keep. As a matter of fact, it’s more than one resolution, technically, because once I can solve the overall issue that’s causing all of my other minute issues, I can solve those as well.

Happy 2015 everyone! I wish you all a happy, healthy, and fruitful year as you work towards your 2015 goals!


How do you deal with stress?

Published November 8, 2013 by ABadKitten

Image Sometimes I wonder, in the midst of having a mini anxiety attack, about what other people are stressing out about in that particular moment. How many peoples’ stress levels are as high as mine? Lower? Higher, even? And why? Everyone is dealing with their own something in their life because, well, that’s life. If we could control everything that happened during our days and easily fix every incident that happened, life would not be life.

What I also wonder, though, is how other people deal with it. How does the man who is going through a divorce which threatens to suck him dry go through his day to day life without losing it? What about the parent whose child is a known drug-abuser? There are so many crappy things that so many different people are going through but how are they all surviving it?

I used to run, walk, write, draw. Now, I barely have time to even cook myself dinner because of how often I’m working. The crappy part is that work is what has me so stressed out! I don’t have time to exercise to clear my mind and I very rarely even get the chance to write as I’ve done today. Finding something to help me get through these next few months without completely snapping seems like an endless search.

How do you deal with stress when you’re in the middle of it 98% of the week?