It’s four o’clock in the evening and you’ve just sat down with a cup of tea. Grabbing a small, empty notebook and your favorite pen, you begin making a list. You jot down memories, both good and bad, labeling them with either “G” for good or “B” for bad. After an hour, your poor cramped hand has had enough. What do you do? You go back to each memory and number them, accounting for how many “G”s there are and how many “B”s there are. Which list is longer?
Most commonly, it’s the list of bad. Bad memories filled with unhappy emotions and a dreadful veil of sorrow each time one is dug up tend to stick with us longer than those that elevate our moods and lift us up. It’s pretty unfortunate, I think, regardless of if they affect your life in a positive manner later on or not.
If you sat down with a notebook and did exactly that, which list would be the longest do you think? I would personally like to think that I’ve had enough happiest in my life so far that it could out-weigh the bad that has happened. I think most people would hope for that, no? When it comes down to it, though, you really wouldn’t know.