Everyone gets into fights. Everyone gets into spats. Everyone turns into a troll once in a while… whether you’re smashing your angry fingers down on your keyboard, cursing up a storm in your head, or screaming at your cat like it has any idea what that loud noise coming out of your mouth really means. It happens because we’re human, we have feelings, and we need to get the steam out one way or another. No, you really should… no one wants to talk to an Angry Arnold all the time.
Realistically though, do you forgive and forget? Both at once? Or maybe you choose to forgive but not forget as opposed to forget and not forgive. Maybe you don’t do either in reality, but forever hold a grudge. To really be able to make the choice, I suppose you’d really have to understand the meaning of either word.
So, let’s ask dictionary.com for some help, shall we?
[fer-giv] Show IPA verb,-gave, -giv·en, -giv·ing.
[fer-get] Show IPA verb,-got or (Archaic) -gat; -got·ten or -got; -get·ting.
–verb (used without object)
Thinking back to a few fights I’ve had with whoever, I can’t really say I’ve forgotten. I obviously remember them, so scratch that theory. The only ones I may have forgotten could be the seriously pointless fights over who gets the last soda in the fridge…or it could be because I have a crappy memory. *shrug*
I would like to say I’m a forgiving person. I’m sure most people would like to say that they don’t hold a grudge forever. Normally, I don’t. But there are a few certain things that still grate me to the core that have happened in the past. Hello grudge. Some of these things, if forgiven, could have caused me even more pain and torment in the future. Some grudges are in place because people have used me as a doormat, and I let them. Doormat Grudge helps to remind me never to let anyone do that again and if they try, unleash holy hell.
Is it really better to forgive and forget? I suppose that depends on the actual problem and the person you had it with. Through experience, I honestly don’t think “Just forgive and forget” is always the best policy. Sometimes tiny grudges can prove to be useful for your well-being.
On the other hand, grudges held because some person over the internet insulted you in a blog won’t prove to be useful anywhere. Let the grudge out of the cage.